“Your child is out of control! Can’t you do something?”
If you’ve heard something like that from a friend, teacher or even a stranger, chances are that your son or daughter has been diagnosed with Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Here are some ways to cope.
First, learn more about the disorder.
Get help. Use assistance from medical professionals, as well as community health services and local school districts. Beyond diagnosing ADHD, these groups can also help both children and parents with coping strategies.
Develop a good relationship with your child’s teacher. Problems associated with ADHD (poor attention span, high level of activity, impulsive behavior) often intensify in classroom settings. Ensure that you, your child and your child’s teacher are all on the same side when it comes to your child’s success in school.
Provide structure. A daily schedule keeps your child calm because he or she knows what to expect throughout the day. Of course, you benefit from the reduced tension and chaos.
Find support. Look to larger churches in your community for a Christian support group. Or start one with other parents from your child’s school. Statistics say approximately 2 million school-age children in the United States have ADHD; that’s one per classroom.
Avoid overstimulating environments. Arrange for your child to stay with a friend when you have errands to run; many ADHD children have trouble dealing with shopping malls or busy stores. This simple step will significantly reduce your stress.
Explore alternative parenting and disciplining methods. Many conventional tactics don’t work with ADHD kids, and parents are left wondering if they’re terrible parents. You’re not. Start by praising and rewarding good choices and behavior, using specific reminders to accomplish tasks, giving simple instructions (not a list), being consistent with your discipline and providing opportunities to spend quiet time alone or with you.
Pray — and pray with your child. Remember, true self-esteem comes from understanding your value through God’s eyes. He loves and values you and your child so much that He sent His Son to restore His relationship with you.
— Brad Lewis
