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Development Topics
Talking to Your Child About the Facts of Life
Get Over It
I meet a number of parents who continue to walk in bondage from past sexual failings. The guilt or shame often pushes parents to impose attitudes and rules on their children beyond reason. Sexuality is portrayed as something to be squelched rather than embraced and controlled with strong boundaries. Training your children to have healthy alternatives that they enjoy allows them to creatively resist peer pressure and take charge of their lives.
Parents often ask me if they should tell their children about past failings. As a general rule — particularly with elementary-aged children — the answer is no. If your child is in middle school or high school, you may be at liberty to share more, but ask yourself what he will gain from the knowledge.
If you need healing from past sexual failings, consider seeking biblical counseling or joining a spiritual cleansing group. By learning to walk in the grace and freedom that our heavenly Father provides for us, we can start to parent our children as healed and whole individuals.
— Amy
Stephens
Last updated: May 2005
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