The age at which children reach puberty differs based on genetics and nutrition. On average, boys reach puberty around age 14 and girls reach puberty around age 12. Your child will grow taller, gain weight and develop sexually. It will be important for you to prepare yourself and your child for these changes.
Start early by talking about the changes of puberty before they arrive. Parents who start open discussions about puberty early have teens who are more open to discussing it. If your first discussion about puberty occurs after it has already begun, kids may be more uncomfortable discussing the issues.
Be clear with your child about the bodily changes he should expect. Give as much information as possible. For example, explain menstruation to girls and spontaneous erections and the possibility of nocturnal emissions (“wet dreams”) to boys. It is better that they hear it from you than from friends or television.
Do your research. If your child asks questions for which you don’t know the answer, simply tell him you will do your best to find the answer. Then be sure to read about the topic.
Don’t assume your child already knows everything he needs to know. Many kids learn about sex and puberty from television, friends, magazines, etc. However, they often get incorrect information. Talking to your child will help displace any incorrect ideas.
Soul search. Talking to your child about body and sexual issues can be uncomfortable if you haven’t prepared yourself ahead of time. Check your own attitudes about sex and your body before talking to your child.
Explain your values. Your child will be more likely to follow your values regarding sexual issues if your state them clearly and model them.
