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Development Topics
What to Expect from Your Child
Rules That Work
Parents make rules as a way to teach their children to do what’s right. But many parents are tired of making rules just to see them broken. Following these guidelines can help you develop rules that work:
Rules should be limited. Children have a hard time following numerous rules. Make rules for the three behaviors you most often need to discipline. Once your child can follow these rules well, select new behaviors to focus on.
Rules should be clear. Children often don’t follow rules because they’re not sure what they are or they don’t understand them. Be specific about what you expect. For example, “No friends in the house until 5 p.m.” Rules should be posted. Both parents and children can forget rules. Write them down and post them in a visible location (on the refrigerator or bathroom mirror).
Rules should be enforced. Once children know what the rules are, they must also know what the penalty is for not following them. Post consequences alongside the rules. Be consistent in enforcing the consequences (see Age-Appropriate Discipline).
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